Jacinda Mitchell • July 14, 2024

Finding Community and Belonging: Insights from "How We Show Up" by Mia Birdsong

In a world where many of us feel increasingly isolated despite being more connected than ever, Mia Birdsong’s "How We Show Up" is a timely and powerful exploration of the importance of community and belonging. This book is a heartfelt invitation to rethink our relationships, redefine success, and reimagine the ways we support and show up for each other.


Understanding the Essence of Community

Birdsong begins by challenging the conventional notions of success, which often emphasize individual achievement and material wealth over relationships and community well-being. She argues that these standards can lead to isolation and a lack of fulfillment. Instead, Birdsong proposes that true success and happiness come from our connections with others and the strength of our communities.


The Power of Authentic Relationships

One of the core messages of "How We Show Up" is the transformative power of authentic relationships. Birdsong shares personal stories and insights from her own life and those of others who have found deeper meaning through genuine connections. She highlights the importance of vulnerability, trust, and mutual support in building strong, lasting relationships.


Redefining Family

Birdsong also explores the concept of family beyond traditional definitions. She encourages readers to consider chosen families—networks of friends, neighbors, and loved ones who provide support, care, and a sense of belonging. These chosen families can be just as meaningful and significant as biological ones, offering a broader and more inclusive understanding of what family can be.


Embracing Radical Hospitality

Another key theme in the book is the idea of radical hospitality. Birdsong urges us to open our homes and hearts to others, creating spaces where people feel welcome, valued, and supported. This practice not only helps build stronger communities but also fosters a culture of generosity and empathy.


Practical Steps for Building Community

Birdsong doesn’t just present a vision of what could be; she also offers practical steps for readers to build and nurture their own communities. These include:

  1. Engaging in Deep Listening: Truly listening to others without judgment can strengthen bonds and create a sense of understanding and solidarity.
  2. Showing Up Consistently: Being present and reliable in the lives of others helps build trust and a sense of security.
  3. Sharing Resources: Whether it’s time, skills, or material goods, sharing what we have with others can enhance communal well-being.
  4. Creating Inclusive Spaces: Ensuring that everyone feels welcome and included in our communities is essential for fostering belonging.


The Impact of Collective Action And A Call To Show Up

Birdsong emphasizes that while individual actions are important, collective action is necessary to address larger systemic issues. By coming together and working as a community, we can create change on a broader scale and build a more just and equitable society.

"How We Show Up" is more than just a book; it’s a call to action. Birdsong inspires us to rethink our relationships and communities, urging us to show up for each other in meaningful ways. By embracing the principles she outlines, we can create a world where everyone feels valued, supported, and connected.



At Soul Development Center, we believe in the power of community and the importance of showing up for each other. Mia Birdsong’s insights resonate deeply with our mission, and we encourage you to explore "How We Show Up" to discover how you can foster deeper connections and build stronger communities in your own life. Together, we can create a world where everyone thrives.

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